Parenting teenage daughter dating
While your instincts about him or her may not be wrong, you may not know the full picture.
A lot of girls have said they appreciated their moms taking the time to understand why that person was important to her.
Eighteen year-old Taryn shared, "I became friends with this girl a couple of years ago that my mom never liked.
She was flaky and would often cancel plans that I'd been looking forward to, but I had so much fun with her and felt like she really 'got' me in a way that no other friend ever had before." What is it that your daughter likes/loves about this person?
For teen girls, their friends are their entire universe, and how you approach or question their choices about their friends can either open up a deeper dialogue between you or cause them to shut down completely.
I get how hard it must be not to want to yell, "" or to unilaterally ban the person from your daughter's life.
Without hitting her over the head with it, your asking questions in this way allows her to also take inventory of what makes her feel drawn to this person and may bring to light a new awareness for her. It makes so much sense that you would want to protect your daughter from going through any of the pain you've been through in your life.
Here's her advice about getting the 411 that you might be missing: Ask your daughter, "Can you tell me a little about_____? If she starts to go there, state clearly that you are truly interested (you are, aren't you?
I appreciate that she lets me learn from my own mistakes instead of her making my decisions for me. If you read the first Ask Elizabeth column, you already know that the number-one thing that girls want you to know about how to create open dialogue with them is to come to them from a place of love, respect and acceptance.